For men
ADHD in men: temper, switching off and holding it together.
With ADHD, your temper can go before you've had a chance to stop it. You're fine at work. Then you get home and snap at the people closest to you, or reach for a drink to switch off. Nobody ever told you that could be ADHD.
These are short, practical tools for the parts that hit hardest. Start with whichever one sounds like you.
When your temper goes from 0 to 100
Free guide
ADHD rage: when it takes over
Four things that help when the anger arrives before you get any say in it. Short, with real examples.
Read the guide →Kit · £3
The Pause Kit
Spot it building, know what to say and do when you can't think, and put things right afterwards. The phone cards include a set written for men.
See the kit →18 or under
If you're 18 or under and anger at home is scaring you, yours or someone else's, call Childline free on 0800 1111.
When the drink has become the off-switch
Many men with ADHD use a drink to switch off. It works until it becomes its own problem.
Kit · £3
The Off-Switch Kit
For when the evening drink has become the only way your head goes quiet. What the drink is switching off, and what to do in the hour before the first one.
See the kit →Before you cut down
If you drink most days, or feel unwell without a drink, talk to your GP before you cut down. Stopping suddenly can be unsafe.
Drinkline: 0300 123 1110.
When work is too much
Free guide
ADHD at work
The boring job that won't start, and whether to tell work. What helps, wherever you work.
Read the guide →Free tracker
Burnout Moment Tracker
Couldn't face work. Snapped at someone. Felt nothing. Log it in a few seconds and see the pattern before it flattens you. No email needed.
Open the tracker →When you're holding it together
Card pack · £2
Masking cards
For when you've been "fine" all day and there's nothing left by the time you get home. Five minutes to stop performing and recover.
See the cards →Free checklist
ADHD in men: what to tell your doctor
A lot of dads recognise themselves when their child is diagnosed. If that's you, and you've never been assessed, tick what sounds like you and take it to your doctor.
Open the checklist →Free guide
Late-Diagnosed ADHD
What happens after a late diagnosis, and how to start from there.
Read the guide →Want to talk it through?
The Direct Line (18+) is a month of peer support with me on WhatsApp, up to 2 messages a day. It isn't therapy. I can't respond in an emergency. £10 for a month's support. One payment, nothing renews. Your messages stay between us, unless I'm worried about your life or a child's safety.
If it's got heavy
If you or anyone else is in danger, call 999.
Samaritans: 116 123, free, any time.
CALM (for anyone who's struggling, 5pm to midnight): 0800 58 58 58.
Worried about your drinking? Drinkline: 0300 123 1110.
18 or under? Childline: 0800 1111.
Not in the UK? In an emergency call 911 (US, Canada), 000 (Australia), 111 (New Zealand) or 112 (Ireland and Europe). To talk to someone: call or text 988 (US, Canada), 13 11 14 (Australia), call or text 1737 (New Zealand), 116 123 (Ireland). All countries, and lines for young people.
All the guides are in the free guide library.