A steady way out of survival mode.
You might recognise yourself in survival mode — constant alertness, emotional overload, difficulty switching off.
This is especially common if you live with ADHD, unresolved trauma, or years of having to stay strong.
I work with people who are functional on the outside but dysregulated underneath — supporting them to calm their nervous system, rebuild self-trust, and come back to themselves at a pace that feels safe.
No fixing. No forcing.
Just grounded, trauma-aware support.
When coping isn’t enough anymore.
Calm the nervous system
When your body is stuck in constant alert, thinking your way out won’t work.
We start by slowing things down, reducing overwhelm, and helping your nervous system feel safe enough to settle.
Make sense of what’s happening
Survival mode can look like anxiety, shutdown, overthinking, or emotional swings.
We unpack what your system has learned to do — without judgement — so you’re no longer fighting yourself.
Rebuild self-trust
This isn’t about becoming a new version of you.
It’s about reconnecting with the one underneath the coping — at a pace that doesn’t overwhelm or retraumatise.
When coping turns against you
Many coping strategies start as survival tools — food, control, distraction, overworking, shutting down.
We gently explore what your system has been relying on, without shame, blame, or pressure to “fix” anything.
When connection feels hard
Survival mode affects how we relate — to partners, friends, and ourselves.
This work helps you understand your patterns, set safer boundaries, and reconnect without losing yourself.
When you’ve lost yourself
Long-term coping can leave you feeling disconnected from who you are and what you feel.
We focus on rebuilding self-trust and internal safety — slowly, steadily, and on your terms.
Hi, I'm Jeanette
When coping isn’t working anymore
This work is for people with ADHD and/or trauma histories who are sick of managing, masking, and holding it together.
If you live with constant alertness, emotional overload, shutdown, self-loathing, or a low-grade sense of despair, there’s nothing wrong with you. These are survival responses — not personal failures.
Many of the people I work with are highly capable on the outside and brutal with themselves on the inside. They’re ashamed of how hard things still feel. Ashamed of not “being over it”. Ashamed of how much effort it takes just to get through the day.
This work is not about mindset, motivation, or becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about stabilising an ADHD- and trauma-impacted nervous system, reducing internal threat, and loosening the grip of shame so you’re no longer fighting yourself just to exist.
Survival mode changes how you live inside yourself.
Long-term survival takes a toll.
Over time, coping can turn into constant tension, self-criticism, emotional shutdown, or a low-level sense of despair that never quite lifts. You may look capable on the outside while feeling exhausted, ashamed, or stuck underneath.
This work is about understanding what your nervous system has adapted to — especially in ADHD and trauma-impacted bodies — and reducing the internal pressure to keep managing at all costs.
There’s no push to heal faster. No pressure to feel positive.
Just steady, practical work that helps you stop fighting yourself from the inside.
What people say after they stop pretending
"Thank you for not judging me, and for helping me understand why I was doing what I was doing. That alone made things feel so much easier.
I didn’t have the Sunday night dread for the first time in years. I’ve stopped gorging on chocolate in the same way and I’ve lost half a stone without really trying.
The shame I used to carry has eased. I can actually see a bit of light now."
- Ashley, Bagley, Detroit
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When surviving takes too much out of you.
This space is for people who are tired of holding it together.
If you live with ADHD, trauma, or long-term stress, you may have learned to cope at a high cost — through shame, self-criticism, overthinking, or numbing out.
This work isn’t about becoming better, stronger, or more positive. It’s about understanding why your nervous system does what it does, and easing the internal pressure to keep surviving on your own.
Here, we slow things down.
We focus on stabilising the nervous system, reducing internal threat, and loosening the grip of shame — without forcing insight, motivation, or emotional exposure before you’re ready.
Listening, if and when it helps.
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01 — Living in survival mode
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02 — Shame, self-criticism, and ADHD
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03 — Why rest doesn’t feel safe
If you want to go a little deeper, in your own time.
Things you can read or listen to, without pressure.
Reading
Short pieces about ADHD, trauma, shame, and survival mode — written for people who are tired of coping and don’t want platitudes.
Listening
Audio conversations you can dip into when it helps. No hype. No motivation. Just honest discussion about nervous systems and survival.
Quiet support
Simple resources for grounding, understanding what’s happening in your body, and easing the pressure to manage everything on your own.
For people who are tired of “working on themselves”.
Thoughts on shame, survival, and why nothing ever felt simple
Shame & self-blame
Why you did what you did.
Why hating yourself never helped.
And what changes when shame loosens its grip.
Survival mode
How ADHD, trauma, and long-term stress shape your nervous system — and why willpower was never the problem.
Finding a way back
Small shifts. Less pressure.
Learning how to live without constantly bracing yourself.
If you’re still here, this might be for you.
You don’t have to keep doing this alone.
If you’re exhausted from holding it together, second-guessing yourself, or quietly hating how hard everything feels — you’re not broken.
The work here isn’t about motivation or
becoming a better version of yourself.
It’s about calming a nervous system that’s been on high alert for too long.
Understanding your patterns instead of shaming them.
And finally getting some breathing room inside your own head.
You can start gently. No fixing. No pressure. No pretending you’re fine.
This is a space for people who are exhausted from coping.
No fixing. No pressure.
Just understanding, steadiness, and a way out of survival mode — at your pace.
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Email: hello@yourresetpower.com
Address: Edinburgh, Scotland
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